This is a Collection of frienship Messages collected over the web. You can send some to your freinds to appreciate them for being there for you.
---->Friendship is not a Game to Play
Friendship is not a game to play, It is not a word to say, It doesn't
start on March and ends on May, It is tomorrow, yesterday, today
and everyday.
---->Moon said to me to leave your
friend
Moon said to me, if your friend is not messaging you why don't you leave your
friend.I looked at moon and said does your sky ever leave you when you
don't shine.
---->Age appears to be
best in some things
Age appears to be best in some things. Old wood best
to burn. Old books best to read. Old rice best to eat and old friends
best to keep
---->God picked up a flower
God picked up a flower and dipped it in a DEW, lovingly touched it which
turned in to u, and the he gifted to me and said, THIS FRIEND
IS 4U.
---->To live a life
To live a life i need heartbeat, 2 have heartbeat i need a heart, 2 have
heart i need happiness, to have happiness i need a friend,
and 4 a friend i need U.ALWAYS
---->True friends are like morning
True friends are like mornings, u cant have them the whole day, but u
can be sure, they will be there when u wake up tomorrow,
next year and forever.
---->
Make 1000's friends
Its not an achievement to make 1000's friends in a year, but an
achievement is when you make a friend for 1000's years.
---->
6 rules to be HAPPY
6 rules to be HAPPY: Free your heart from hatred; Free your mind from
worries; Live simply; Expect less; Give more & Always have
ME as UR FRIEND
---->
Never abandon old
friends.
Never abandon old friends. They are hard to replace. Friendships is like
wine: it gets BETTER as it grows OLDER. Just like us... I get
BETTER, you get OLDER.
---->
I can't afford a
precious FRIEND like YOU!!!
GOD is so wise that he never created FRIENDS with price tags,
Because..... if He did, I can't afford a precious FRIEND like
YOU!!!
---->As long as we have
memories, yesterday remains;
As long as we have memories, yesterday remains; as long as we have hope,
tomorrow awaits. As long as we have Friendship, each day is
never a waste.
---->I'll
always value you deep within my heart!
Whatever you see as the truth; whatever you see as lies, remember that true friendship never
dies, although we may change & drift apart, I'll always
value u deep within my heart!
---->
If friends were
flowers
If friends were flowers I would not pick you! I'll let you grow in the
garden & cultivate you with love and care so that I can keep you
as a friend 4ever!!
---->Your validity of being my friend
is going 2 b expired
Your validity of being my friend is going to be expired today,please recharge
your friendship immediately by delivering 4-5 sweet & cool
messages.So hurry now!
---->
Friendship is sweet when it's
new
Friendship is sweet when it's new, Sweeter when its true, but sweetest
when its u. When God gave friends he tried 2 b fair! When I got
u, I got more than my share!
Many more are yet to come!
Friday, December 9, 2011
Wednesday, November 30, 2011
Teens Resolving Conflicts
Teenage is the most sensitive phase of a
person's life. The developments that take place during the teenage years
make the adolescents ready to face the real world. The crossroad that
they have just left behind and the future world that is beckoning them
makes them confused when they have to decide the right course of action
for themselves. They can neither behave like a child, nor like an adult.
Teenagers often find it difficult to cope with the mass of physical, psychological and behavioral changes they have to adjust and adapt to. This in turn threatens their personalities. Students resolving conflict from different parts of the country often have the experience of being either abused or of abusing. Parents of students resolving conflict often find themselves utterly puzzled when they try to find the best technique to help their children. But, they can find some solace in the participation of a large number of activists and organizations to help the students resolving conflict.
Teenagers are usually known to be idealistic, impulsive, short-tempered and with very little patience. Students resolving conflict are known to seek solution to their conflicts in fighting, which often turns violent. Because of this, they can not formulate any positive solution to the problem, and also find themselves mentally or physically bruised. This leads to lack of concentration, a lack of confidence, worsening parent-child and peer relationships that ultimately lead to a troubled life and poor performance.
There are ways to help the students resolving conflict. Keeping their impulsive nature in mind, it is advisable to seek peaceful, mutually beneficial resolutions to their conflicts. An argumentative attitude worsens the situation. Listening to each other's explanations patiently and to learn to respect differences are vital in this respect.
Students resolving conflict should not turn their backs on the problem. It does not help if one avoids the situation. Face the challenge and tackle it without giving yourself to aggression. Share your common, favorite things with each other. If a situation seems to go out of control, don't try to resolve it hastily. Cooperate with your peers if they want to seek workable solutions. Don't abuse or insult anyone by calling names, especially, keep away from blaming others. Understand the perspective of others and when a conflict is unavoidable, look inside yourself to rectify your own faults, if any.
There are ways to resolve conflicts and fights if they come around.
Trying not to have fights and conflicts in friendship is also worth a try but when they do come, be sure to take care of them fast enough to save the friendship.
Teenagers often find it difficult to cope with the mass of physical, psychological and behavioral changes they have to adjust and adapt to. This in turn threatens their personalities. Students resolving conflict from different parts of the country often have the experience of being either abused or of abusing. Parents of students resolving conflict often find themselves utterly puzzled when they try to find the best technique to help their children. But, they can find some solace in the participation of a large number of activists and organizations to help the students resolving conflict.
Teenagers are usually known to be idealistic, impulsive, short-tempered and with very little patience. Students resolving conflict are known to seek solution to their conflicts in fighting, which often turns violent. Because of this, they can not formulate any positive solution to the problem, and also find themselves mentally or physically bruised. This leads to lack of concentration, a lack of confidence, worsening parent-child and peer relationships that ultimately lead to a troubled life and poor performance.
There are ways to help the students resolving conflict. Keeping their impulsive nature in mind, it is advisable to seek peaceful, mutually beneficial resolutions to their conflicts. An argumentative attitude worsens the situation. Listening to each other's explanations patiently and to learn to respect differences are vital in this respect.
Students resolving conflict should not turn their backs on the problem. It does not help if one avoids the situation. Face the challenge and tackle it without giving yourself to aggression. Share your common, favorite things with each other. If a situation seems to go out of control, don't try to resolve it hastily. Cooperate with your peers if they want to seek workable solutions. Don't abuse or insult anyone by calling names, especially, keep away from blaming others. Understand the perspective of others and when a conflict is unavoidable, look inside yourself to rectify your own faults, if any.
There are ways to resolve conflicts and fights if they come around.
Conflict is present in all intimate relationships. Whether
conflict is resolved constructively or acted out destructively is what
determines its impact on the relationship. The following suggestions are
designed to help couples resolve conflict by teaching them how to fight
fairly.
o Create a "circuit breaker" that will prevent fights from escalating out of control. Establish a special code word (e.g. "time-out!") that signals a "cease fire." Even a comical word can break the cycle of tension. If you feel out of control, you will probably need to temporarily remove yourself from the situation. If so, make a definite time and place to continue the conversation.
o Avoid "letting it all hang out." Tragically, cruel statements made in the heat of battle tend to be long remembered and seldom forgiven. Anger research demonstrates that venting aggression doesn't resolve anger, but merely rehearses it. Repetitive explosions in the service of "telling it like it is" may push partners even further away and rarely alter the circumstances that are making one feel angry in the first place.
o Identify the feelings underlying your anger. Anger often functions as a protective shield against feelings that are more difficult to express, such as sadness, powerlessness or a fear of intimacy.
o Avoid the tendency to chronically complain. Many friends seem unable to distinguish between ordinary life events and issues that really matter. Before complaining, reflect on questions such as: "Is my friend's behavior really bad for our relationship?" This allows one to see the Big Picture rather than the Little Behavior.
o Cultivate an attitude of respect. The word respect is derived from respicere, a Greek word which means "the willingness to look again." Our willingness to see our partners as human beings who deserve to be treated with dignity and kindness is basic to a healthy relationship. Without this respect, a healthy relationship isn't possible.
o Change yourself and your relationship will change. Most power struggles are rooted in trying to get someone else to change. This battle usually becomes the biggest obstacle to change and healing. As an experiment, focus on what you can do differently instead of on what you feel your partner "should" be doing.
o Remember that timing is everything. Many destructive fights occur when one partner feels "ambushed." Before unloading on your partner, try an approach such as: "Something has come up for me - is now a good time to talk about it?" This can create an appropriate context for dialogue at a time when you are both open to it.
o Beware of the ABC's inherent in most arguments - Accusation, Blame, and Coercion. Consider changing your focus from asking "Who's to blame here?" to "How do we get on the same team?" Speak about your experience and feelings. For example: "I feel upset that you criticized me in front of your family." "I" statements promote self-responsibility and avoid the blaming quality of "You!" statements.
o While your Friend is talking listen as non-defensively as you can. If you're already preparing your rebuttal in your head, you aren't really listening.
o Be willing to acknowledge and validate your partner's feelings. Many times in couples work, this is the point where one Friend turns to me and says: "But I don't agree with what she's saying!" Validating your partner doesn't mean that they are right, or that you agree with them. It simply means that you are demonstrating your willingness to understand. Use reflective listening statements such as: "Let me see if I understand you - I hear you saying that...." This will allow your friend to feel heard and ensures that you understand, rather than assume, what is being shared.
o Avoid trying to fix the problem immediately. Make sure both of you fully understand the issue before attempting a "quick fix." Communication is a process that takes time.
o Ask clearly and directly for what you want - and wait! Individuals who are not experienced in assertive communication have a tendency to prematurely "erase" their request - "Oh, forget it - I knew it was too much to ask." Give your friend time to internally process the request, even if it means coming back to it in a few days. You then have a better chance of reaching a lasting agreement that will work for both of you. It would be naïve to suggest that these skills will be mastered by reading one article - it takes practice. However, making a positive intention to "fight fairly" and then taking a simple step, such as creating a weekly couples meeting, can lead to immediate improvement. Finally, if you find yourself getting stuck, consider seeking short-term help from a counselor with specific expertise in friend's communication and conflict resolution. Great relationships are worth fighting for.
o Create a "circuit breaker" that will prevent fights from escalating out of control. Establish a special code word (e.g. "time-out!") that signals a "cease fire." Even a comical word can break the cycle of tension. If you feel out of control, you will probably need to temporarily remove yourself from the situation. If so, make a definite time and place to continue the conversation.
o Avoid "letting it all hang out." Tragically, cruel statements made in the heat of battle tend to be long remembered and seldom forgiven. Anger research demonstrates that venting aggression doesn't resolve anger, but merely rehearses it. Repetitive explosions in the service of "telling it like it is" may push partners even further away and rarely alter the circumstances that are making one feel angry in the first place.
o Identify the feelings underlying your anger. Anger often functions as a protective shield against feelings that are more difficult to express, such as sadness, powerlessness or a fear of intimacy.
o Avoid the tendency to chronically complain. Many friends seem unable to distinguish between ordinary life events and issues that really matter. Before complaining, reflect on questions such as: "Is my friend's behavior really bad for our relationship?" This allows one to see the Big Picture rather than the Little Behavior.
o Cultivate an attitude of respect. The word respect is derived from respicere, a Greek word which means "the willingness to look again." Our willingness to see our partners as human beings who deserve to be treated with dignity and kindness is basic to a healthy relationship. Without this respect, a healthy relationship isn't possible.
o Change yourself and your relationship will change. Most power struggles are rooted in trying to get someone else to change. This battle usually becomes the biggest obstacle to change and healing. As an experiment, focus on what you can do differently instead of on what you feel your partner "should" be doing.
o Remember that timing is everything. Many destructive fights occur when one partner feels "ambushed." Before unloading on your partner, try an approach such as: "Something has come up for me - is now a good time to talk about it?" This can create an appropriate context for dialogue at a time when you are both open to it.
o Beware of the ABC's inherent in most arguments - Accusation, Blame, and Coercion. Consider changing your focus from asking "Who's to blame here?" to "How do we get on the same team?" Speak about your experience and feelings. For example: "I feel upset that you criticized me in front of your family." "I" statements promote self-responsibility and avoid the blaming quality of "You!" statements.
o While your Friend is talking listen as non-defensively as you can. If you're already preparing your rebuttal in your head, you aren't really listening.
o Be willing to acknowledge and validate your partner's feelings. Many times in couples work, this is the point where one Friend turns to me and says: "But I don't agree with what she's saying!" Validating your partner doesn't mean that they are right, or that you agree with them. It simply means that you are demonstrating your willingness to understand. Use reflective listening statements such as: "Let me see if I understand you - I hear you saying that...." This will allow your friend to feel heard and ensures that you understand, rather than assume, what is being shared.
o Avoid trying to fix the problem immediately. Make sure both of you fully understand the issue before attempting a "quick fix." Communication is a process that takes time.
o Ask clearly and directly for what you want - and wait! Individuals who are not experienced in assertive communication have a tendency to prematurely "erase" their request - "Oh, forget it - I knew it was too much to ask." Give your friend time to internally process the request, even if it means coming back to it in a few days. You then have a better chance of reaching a lasting agreement that will work for both of you. It would be naïve to suggest that these skills will be mastered by reading one article - it takes practice. However, making a positive intention to "fight fairly" and then taking a simple step, such as creating a weekly couples meeting, can lead to immediate improvement. Finally, if you find yourself getting stuck, consider seeking short-term help from a counselor with specific expertise in friend's communication and conflict resolution. Great relationships are worth fighting for.
Trying not to have fights and conflicts in friendship is also worth a try but when they do come, be sure to take care of them fast enough to save the friendship.
Friday, October 21, 2011
Friendship Quotes!
There are alot of issues concerning friendship to deal with, but let's start by analyzing some inspired quotes on friendship. Let's start with Your Own view of anyone of the following Quotes.
Please be paitent; this page may take time to load due to our wealth of quotes! :)
"True friendship is like sound health; the value of it is seldom known until it be lost."
- Charles Caleb Colton
"Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born."
- Anais Nin
"My friends are my estate."
- Emily Dickinson
"A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out."
"A friend is one who walks in when others walk out"
-Walter Winchell
"A friend is someone who is there for you when he'd rather be anywhere else."
- Len Wein - Sent by Paulo Louro
"A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart, and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words."
- Sent by Donna Roberts
"A friend is one who believes in you when you have ceased to believe in yourself."
- Sent by Lysha
"Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow.
Don't walk behind me, I may not lead.
Walk beside me and be my friend."
- Albert Camus (also attributed to Maimonidies). Sent by clovers
"A hug is worth a thousand words. A friend is worth more."
- Sent by Jasmine Fitzwilliam
"Everyone is a friend, until they prove otherwise."
- sent by Steve
"Every person is a new door to a different world."
- from movie "Six Degrees of Seperation" (thanks to Steve's Famous Quotes)
"It takes a long time to grow an old friend."
- by John Leonard (thanks to Steve's Famous Quotes)
Thanks majorly to Friendship.com .
Now let's start the discussion!
Please be paitent; this page may take time to load due to our wealth of quotes! :)
"True friendship is like sound health; the value of it is seldom known until it be lost."
- Charles Caleb Colton
"Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born."
- Anais Nin
"My friends are my estate."
- Emily Dickinson
"A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out."
"A friend is one who walks in when others walk out"
-Walter Winchell
"A friend is someone who is there for you when he'd rather be anywhere else."
- Len Wein - Sent by Paulo Louro
"A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart, and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words."
- Sent by Donna Roberts
"A friend is one who believes in you when you have ceased to believe in yourself."
- Sent by Lysha
"Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow.
Don't walk behind me, I may not lead.
Walk beside me and be my friend."
- Albert Camus (also attributed to Maimonidies). Sent by clovers
"A hug is worth a thousand words. A friend is worth more."
- Sent by Jasmine Fitzwilliam
"Everyone is a friend, until they prove otherwise."
- sent by Steve
"Every person is a new door to a different world."
- from movie "Six Degrees of Seperation" (thanks to Steve's Famous Quotes)
"It takes a long time to grow an old friend."
- by John Leonard (thanks to Steve's Famous Quotes)
Thanks majorly to Friendship.com .
Now let's start the discussion!
Tuesday, October 18, 2011
Monday, September 19, 2011
Saturday, September 17, 2011
How to choose your friend
Choosing a friend may be viewed by a lot of people as either easy or hard depending on the person; the environment where you are to choose the friend; reasons why you need to choose a friend etc. But is it actually a tasking job or is it that simple? Let's take a look at who a friend is.
Who is a friend ?
A friend is a person who you know, knows you and you both share moments together; you trust one another. A friend is someone you can trust with your secrets, a person you can talk to and feel relieved when in problems.
A friend is a person who rejoices with you in your happy moments; comforts you in your sad moments; understands you when others don't and is caring enough to correct you when you're wrong and praise you when you are right. A friend is one who has your back and can pull you up when you're down.
A friend must also be the kind of person you never regret meeting- A friend must add to your life in positive ways. A friend encourages and discourages depending on what is needed.
Who you call your friend must be able to talk to you and change some of your former behaviours and in fact, friends behaviours are most times alike- as noted by the adage which says show me your friend and I'll show you who you are.
We can go on and on with the characteristics of friends but you must also understand the fact that friendship is a two way thing- you get and you give. If you're in friendship and you're giving alone then such a friend is becoming a parasite. If you're also found in a friendship where your friend does everything for you and you just get all the time, then you should know that you're the parasite. In actual fact, such is not friendship- it's just a parasitic relationship between two mutually consenting individuals. Don't be found in one.
So in the light of all this- please always remember that whatever your friend can do to change your life, you too should be able to repay in likewise manner.
How do you choose your friend.
From our definition of who a friend is, we can see what to look out for in people we call our friends. Now lets check out how we can choose the right friends.
It's easy to just choose any type of friend but to choose the right type is not entirely easy- you need some guidelines for yourself. I encourage you to first determine what you want in a friend; the qualities. Sit down and think about who you want your friend(s) to be- is it a cool guy or a rocking type of guy, is it a gentle person or the lousy type, the brilliant geek or the average class member. You should determine all this first.
How?
Look at yourself and project into what you want to become. Your friends have a lot of role to play in determining what you eventually turn out to be so choose wisely what you want to become and then choose your friend.
Someone said- don't let your friends choose you, choose your friends. Why? Because it determines YOU. Your friends may choose you because they have found in you the qualities they want but they may not be your type. Don't just go ahead with such! Let them know your stand or better still allow them to be ordinary acquaintances, not Friends.
It's also right to advise you to choose a friend of higher status than you. Such a friend helps you to grow. When you choose a friend of the same level as you, all both of you do is share the same level of idea. But when you make friends with those brighter than you, of better qualities than you then you can aim to also be better. You'll find out that in a short while, you'll also start being like your friends. Why make friends with a person who you both know exactly almost the same things; are in the same levels and have the same rate of assimilation and eventually end up not benefitting each other in the best way. (I'm not disputing the fact that there are some benefits of that, but it's so clear that it won't be as much as having a friend of a better position to influence you to your optimum performance.)
It's also worthy of note that you should try as much as possible to make friends of the same line with what you need- as a science student, it won't make sense to make friends with an art student with the purpose of studying together. You may not be of optimum benefit to each other.
With a this in mind- know this one thing- this is not all you need but just my view of what I know. It also may not apply to you. It's left for you to decide which type of friends you want and for what reasons- this is the main point to consider. Thanks.
Yours Lovingly,
Online Shoppers.
Who is a friend ?
A friend is a person who you know, knows you and you both share moments together; you trust one another. A friend is someone you can trust with your secrets, a person you can talk to and feel relieved when in problems.
A friend is a person who rejoices with you in your happy moments; comforts you in your sad moments; understands you when others don't and is caring enough to correct you when you're wrong and praise you when you are right. A friend is one who has your back and can pull you up when you're down.
A friend must also be the kind of person you never regret meeting- A friend must add to your life in positive ways. A friend encourages and discourages depending on what is needed.
Who you call your friend must be able to talk to you and change some of your former behaviours and in fact, friends behaviours are most times alike- as noted by the adage which says show me your friend and I'll show you who you are.
We can go on and on with the characteristics of friends but you must also understand the fact that friendship is a two way thing- you get and you give. If you're in friendship and you're giving alone then such a friend is becoming a parasite. If you're also found in a friendship where your friend does everything for you and you just get all the time, then you should know that you're the parasite. In actual fact, such is not friendship- it's just a parasitic relationship between two mutually consenting individuals. Don't be found in one.
So in the light of all this- please always remember that whatever your friend can do to change your life, you too should be able to repay in likewise manner.
How do you choose your friend.
From our definition of who a friend is, we can see what to look out for in people we call our friends. Now lets check out how we can choose the right friends.
It's easy to just choose any type of friend but to choose the right type is not entirely easy- you need some guidelines for yourself. I encourage you to first determine what you want in a friend; the qualities. Sit down and think about who you want your friend(s) to be- is it a cool guy or a rocking type of guy, is it a gentle person or the lousy type, the brilliant geek or the average class member. You should determine all this first.
How?
Look at yourself and project into what you want to become. Your friends have a lot of role to play in determining what you eventually turn out to be so choose wisely what you want to become and then choose your friend.
Someone said- don't let your friends choose you, choose your friends. Why? Because it determines YOU. Your friends may choose you because they have found in you the qualities they want but they may not be your type. Don't just go ahead with such! Let them know your stand or better still allow them to be ordinary acquaintances, not Friends.
It's also right to advise you to choose a friend of higher status than you. Such a friend helps you to grow. When you choose a friend of the same level as you, all both of you do is share the same level of idea. But when you make friends with those brighter than you, of better qualities than you then you can aim to also be better. You'll find out that in a short while, you'll also start being like your friends. Why make friends with a person who you both know exactly almost the same things; are in the same levels and have the same rate of assimilation and eventually end up not benefitting each other in the best way. (I'm not disputing the fact that there are some benefits of that, but it's so clear that it won't be as much as having a friend of a better position to influence you to your optimum performance.)
It's also worthy of note that you should try as much as possible to make friends of the same line with what you need- as a science student, it won't make sense to make friends with an art student with the purpose of studying together. You may not be of optimum benefit to each other.
With a this in mind- know this one thing- this is not all you need but just my view of what I know. It also may not apply to you. It's left for you to decide which type of friends you want and for what reasons- this is the main point to consider. Thanks.
Yours Lovingly,
Online Shoppers.
Thursday, September 15, 2011
Staying happy and healthy has been tested and confirmed to be a result of helping others. Have you ever found a nice person who is sad? I guess no.
It's one of the beautiful laws of nature to help yourself while helping others- says one of my facebook friends. This is evident in all aspect of life. A teacher knows better by teaching his students; A leader knows better by informing his followers; A leader showing the right way is rewarded by leading in the way; even so a candle which burns itself away by lighting up a place gets more noticed and appreciated in the process.
You too can light up someone's day today and be sure you'll definitely gain something nice! You may not be able to tell what a simple smile at a little child can do, nor can you tell what that little extra tip will do to that waiter; nor can you tell what impact a call or a text message to say hi will do to a friend. Why don't you try something nice out today and see the outcome of it?
Remember the universal principle- Give and it shall come back to you- full measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over. For with what measurement you use, the same shall be used for you too.
Also the Golden rule which says- do unto others as you would have them do unto you. If you will like to be happy and being treated nicely and not as shit, then do that unto someone and see if it won't come to you. What a man sow; that he reap.
I'm sure you'll do that today and you'll be the better for it! I'm committed to your welfare.
Yours lovingly,
Online §hoppers.
Monday, July 11, 2011
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