Monday, September 19, 2011
Saturday, September 17, 2011
How to choose your friend
Choosing a friend may be viewed by a lot of people as either easy or hard depending on the person; the environment where you are to choose the friend; reasons why you need to choose a friend etc. But is it actually a tasking job or is it that simple? Let's take a look at who a friend is.
Who is a friend ?
A friend is a person who you know, knows you and you both share moments together; you trust one another. A friend is someone you can trust with your secrets, a person you can talk to and feel relieved when in problems.
A friend is a person who rejoices with you in your happy moments; comforts you in your sad moments; understands you when others don't and is caring enough to correct you when you're wrong and praise you when you are right. A friend is one who has your back and can pull you up when you're down.
A friend must also be the kind of person you never regret meeting- A friend must add to your life in positive ways. A friend encourages and discourages depending on what is needed.
Who you call your friend must be able to talk to you and change some of your former behaviours and in fact, friends behaviours are most times alike- as noted by the adage which says show me your friend and I'll show you who you are.
We can go on and on with the characteristics of friends but you must also understand the fact that friendship is a two way thing- you get and you give. If you're in friendship and you're giving alone then such a friend is becoming a parasite. If you're also found in a friendship where your friend does everything for you and you just get all the time, then you should know that you're the parasite. In actual fact, such is not friendship- it's just a parasitic relationship between two mutually consenting individuals. Don't be found in one.
So in the light of all this- please always remember that whatever your friend can do to change your life, you too should be able to repay in likewise manner.
How do you choose your friend.
From our definition of who a friend is, we can see what to look out for in people we call our friends. Now lets check out how we can choose the right friends.
It's easy to just choose any type of friend but to choose the right type is not entirely easy- you need some guidelines for yourself. I encourage you to first determine what you want in a friend; the qualities. Sit down and think about who you want your friend(s) to be- is it a cool guy or a rocking type of guy, is it a gentle person or the lousy type, the brilliant geek or the average class member. You should determine all this first.
How?
Look at yourself and project into what you want to become. Your friends have a lot of role to play in determining what you eventually turn out to be so choose wisely what you want to become and then choose your friend.
Someone said- don't let your friends choose you, choose your friends. Why? Because it determines YOU. Your friends may choose you because they have found in you the qualities they want but they may not be your type. Don't just go ahead with such! Let them know your stand or better still allow them to be ordinary acquaintances, not Friends.
It's also right to advise you to choose a friend of higher status than you. Such a friend helps you to grow. When you choose a friend of the same level as you, all both of you do is share the same level of idea. But when you make friends with those brighter than you, of better qualities than you then you can aim to also be better. You'll find out that in a short while, you'll also start being like your friends. Why make friends with a person who you both know exactly almost the same things; are in the same levels and have the same rate of assimilation and eventually end up not benefitting each other in the best way. (I'm not disputing the fact that there are some benefits of that, but it's so clear that it won't be as much as having a friend of a better position to influence you to your optimum performance.)
It's also worthy of note that you should try as much as possible to make friends of the same line with what you need- as a science student, it won't make sense to make friends with an art student with the purpose of studying together. You may not be of optimum benefit to each other.
With a this in mind- know this one thing- this is not all you need but just my view of what I know. It also may not apply to you. It's left for you to decide which type of friends you want and for what reasons- this is the main point to consider. Thanks.
Yours Lovingly,
Online Shoppers.
Who is a friend ?
A friend is a person who you know, knows you and you both share moments together; you trust one another. A friend is someone you can trust with your secrets, a person you can talk to and feel relieved when in problems.
A friend is a person who rejoices with you in your happy moments; comforts you in your sad moments; understands you when others don't and is caring enough to correct you when you're wrong and praise you when you are right. A friend is one who has your back and can pull you up when you're down.
A friend must also be the kind of person you never regret meeting- A friend must add to your life in positive ways. A friend encourages and discourages depending on what is needed.
Who you call your friend must be able to talk to you and change some of your former behaviours and in fact, friends behaviours are most times alike- as noted by the adage which says show me your friend and I'll show you who you are.
We can go on and on with the characteristics of friends but you must also understand the fact that friendship is a two way thing- you get and you give. If you're in friendship and you're giving alone then such a friend is becoming a parasite. If you're also found in a friendship where your friend does everything for you and you just get all the time, then you should know that you're the parasite. In actual fact, such is not friendship- it's just a parasitic relationship between two mutually consenting individuals. Don't be found in one.
So in the light of all this- please always remember that whatever your friend can do to change your life, you too should be able to repay in likewise manner.
How do you choose your friend.
From our definition of who a friend is, we can see what to look out for in people we call our friends. Now lets check out how we can choose the right friends.
It's easy to just choose any type of friend but to choose the right type is not entirely easy- you need some guidelines for yourself. I encourage you to first determine what you want in a friend; the qualities. Sit down and think about who you want your friend(s) to be- is it a cool guy or a rocking type of guy, is it a gentle person or the lousy type, the brilliant geek or the average class member. You should determine all this first.
How?
Look at yourself and project into what you want to become. Your friends have a lot of role to play in determining what you eventually turn out to be so choose wisely what you want to become and then choose your friend.
Someone said- don't let your friends choose you, choose your friends. Why? Because it determines YOU. Your friends may choose you because they have found in you the qualities they want but they may not be your type. Don't just go ahead with such! Let them know your stand or better still allow them to be ordinary acquaintances, not Friends.
It's also right to advise you to choose a friend of higher status than you. Such a friend helps you to grow. When you choose a friend of the same level as you, all both of you do is share the same level of idea. But when you make friends with those brighter than you, of better qualities than you then you can aim to also be better. You'll find out that in a short while, you'll also start being like your friends. Why make friends with a person who you both know exactly almost the same things; are in the same levels and have the same rate of assimilation and eventually end up not benefitting each other in the best way. (I'm not disputing the fact that there are some benefits of that, but it's so clear that it won't be as much as having a friend of a better position to influence you to your optimum performance.)
It's also worthy of note that you should try as much as possible to make friends of the same line with what you need- as a science student, it won't make sense to make friends with an art student with the purpose of studying together. You may not be of optimum benefit to each other.
With a this in mind- know this one thing- this is not all you need but just my view of what I know. It also may not apply to you. It's left for you to decide which type of friends you want and for what reasons- this is the main point to consider. Thanks.
Yours Lovingly,
Online Shoppers.
Thursday, September 15, 2011
Staying happy and healthy has been tested and confirmed to be a result of helping others. Have you ever found a nice person who is sad? I guess no.
It's one of the beautiful laws of nature to help yourself while helping others- says one of my facebook friends. This is evident in all aspect of life. A teacher knows better by teaching his students; A leader knows better by informing his followers; A leader showing the right way is rewarded by leading in the way; even so a candle which burns itself away by lighting up a place gets more noticed and appreciated in the process.
You too can light up someone's day today and be sure you'll definitely gain something nice! You may not be able to tell what a simple smile at a little child can do, nor can you tell what that little extra tip will do to that waiter; nor can you tell what impact a call or a text message to say hi will do to a friend. Why don't you try something nice out today and see the outcome of it?
Remember the universal principle- Give and it shall come back to you- full measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over. For with what measurement you use, the same shall be used for you too.
Also the Golden rule which says- do unto others as you would have them do unto you. If you will like to be happy and being treated nicely and not as shit, then do that unto someone and see if it won't come to you. What a man sow; that he reap.
I'm sure you'll do that today and you'll be the better for it! I'm committed to your welfare.
Yours lovingly,
Online §hoppers.
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